It is saddening to note how much parents prepare for every other thing but little for an important issue. I have watched prospective couple plan ahead for their wedding, plan for the future but plan little about this matter. Some actually plan for this particular matter which God himself carefully planned for with so much levity and little substantial backup, negligence to the man within and poor execution plans. Negligence of this matter has left the family, the church and even the world helpless. This matter which has received little consideration and insignificant execution plan is the actual FUTURE in disguise.

In the contemporary society, many have done so much to have this gift, many throw huge parties and call it “Baby Shower” just to show off their happiness in anticipation for their bundle of joy.

Let me ask “Are you sure what you just got is a bundle of joy to your family and the society in entirety?”
If Abubakar Shekau, Mohammed Yusuf, Jaber A. Elbaneh, Hitler’s moms were to be pregnant for them at this time, what made you think they wouldn’t throw a baby shower?

Many mighty have failed, some felt their succession plans were superb because they had their kids live and learn in the developed world but at the eleventh hour discovered their failure.

God said” let us make man in our own IMAGE, after our LIKENESS, and that they have dominion…” (Gen. 1:26). I understand that much more than what people know are involved in making a child become And remain the bundle of joy he is.
Taking bearing on Genesis 1:16 which shows where God did what he has given us permission to do (Procreation), the questions now are as a parent:

  1. Whose image reflects through you? No matter how much plan you have, you can’t raise what is different from what you are. Do you fear and honour God? Does God’s image reflect through you? If not, how would you say ” LETT US MAKE MAN IN OUR OWN IMAGE?”(1 Corinthians 11:7)
  2. What is your image and likeness? God who made us in his image never refer us to be what he is not. For everything he asked us to be, such righteousness and holiness, he asked us in reference to him(1 Peter 1:16). Would you proudly want to raise your kids in the image or likeness of you?
  3. How much investment do you make in the place of prayer? Adam gave names to every creature God brought to him. As prospective parents, what investment of the word have you made in the lives of the children God will soon bring to you. (Genesis 2:19)
  4. May God give us strength to break the backbone of poor parenting. How prepared are you?



I have heard counselors, pastors, parents and other people warn the young and single brethren not to allow pressure push them into the wrong marriage. I have heard Anake mom scold her daughter for rushing into marriage with Akunna; a three months relationship with a new colleague, because Ijeoma her childhood friend who was five years younger than her got married. Now, the same man who professed never to leave Anake, has left her with a six month old baby and nowhere to be found. As I listened to mama Anake reprimand her daughter; I felt she advised me too and I got the message. There is no need for the rush after all😔, especially when you are rushing without God’s guidance.

But, Then, I have something else to talk about.
I have watched some old and young single brethren boast in their deficiencies under the beautiful shade of “It is better to marry late, than marry wrongly”. Sister and brother, have you taken sometime to know the cause of the delay? I have come to understand that some delays are not prerequisite but necessary. Necessary in the sense that a sister believing God for a husband still boast about how sharp her tongue is and how she won’t tolerate any nonsense from any man🤨, she thinks the world system is now the way to marriage😫, she thinks submission is an illusion😱, she still has many contradictory opinions as regards God’s opinion on marriage…hmmm😷.

How about you Bro. You secretly admire certain things that oppose God’s will and choice in marriage union, you ain’t even faithful as a single Christian bro🙄; you talk to Ada like she is the one🙃, and you talk to Fumilayo like you are ready to see her family next week😇. What makes you think you would stick to only Ifunanya after marriage? (Amaka, please, don’t pinch me again, may be you haven’tseen some brothers who do godly womanizing; they feel), you don’t even know how to control your temper 🥶 “I am born again but my temper is still undergoing Salvation process,” you tell your offender. What makes you think you won’t beat your wife when she screws the little nut in your head (women are unique🤣). You keep singing “A godly dad and Priestly fatherhood” when apart from the kids you see, you don’t even know anything about them and you haven’t read a single book on that. You want to learn on the job I guess😁. Issorite!

What in essence is she blabbing🗣?

It is not about how long you waited, it is not about waiting and not working, it is not the consolation you give yourself each time you went for a wedding especially the one between young people, “It is not about rushing into it, it is about staying in it” you say.

This now bring me to the point I want to make(this talkativeness of mine is one thing I have to deal with 🤬)

“if you don’t work on yourself while you wait, if you don’t imbibe the characters that keep people in it, if you don’t go after the right knowledge, if you don’t ask questions but sit there all day doing pedicure waiting for Mr. Or Mrs. Right, singing “They that wait upon the Lord… “

Mr. Or Mrs. Right may come but you could eventually ruin what was supposed to be right because you were not right. Eventually, you married at 40 and ended up in the wrong marriage you ran all from all your single days .

Summarily, it is good to avoid pressure but it is better to work on your weakness and it is best you be the right waiting for the right: it is the only way to escape the wrong.


Speaking my observation
May the Lord help us

Are you a believer?

Know who a believer is
Something happened recently, and a confused sister asked in a shaky voice “I thought everyone in here is a believer? ” I smiled and answered “Not everyone”.

We may have different conversation stories (Saul’s conversation story is not same with Yours), we may have different encounter and experience with Christ, we may differ in our understanding of the Word (bible) which may be as a result of the difference in our ability to hear the Spirit of God explain the Word, we may respond to the prompt of the Holy spirit differently and speak different tongues, Etc But, we can’t speak varying languages as believers of Christ.

Some think unbelievers are those who do not go to the same church with them, who do not share their church doctrines, who do not read, understand and interpret the Bible like Apostle Selman. No, Darling, a real unbeliever is one who speaks a different language than is obtained in Christ (John 3:16). Many people have fallen prey in the hands of unbelieving believers who hide in church and display big bible volumes. This shows that an unbeliever can be that unbelieving Prayer Secretary, Pastor, Deacon,Deaconess, Youth President etc if they do not speak the language FAITH. (Roman 10:9, John 11:25-27).
Without faith, one can’t believe the unfinished work of Christ or, be able to confess Christ as Lord. I just pray for understanding. A believer becomes one only when he be able to receive grace to believe and confess his belief in Christ Jesus… Don’t be deceived by the tongues and interpretation of the word, some unbelievers do these as well. If you are in church and you still don’t have faith in Christ Jesus, you are just one of those who have signed up to become Christians without evidence and Christianity is nothing but a religion.
…for whoever believes (has faith) in him, has eternal life.



Jonadabs was seen in 2 Samuel 13:3-5.undefined

The friend Jonadab

1 Now David’s son Absalom had a beautiful sister named Tamar. And Amnon, her half brother, fell desperately in love with her.
2 Samuel 13:1

2 Amnon became so obsessed with Tamar that he became ill. She was a virgin, and Amnon thought he could never have her.
2 Samuel 13:2

3 But Amnon had a very crafty friend—his cousin Jonadab. He was the son of David’s brother Shimea.
2 Samuel 13:3

4 One day Jonadab said to Amnon, “What’s the trouble? Why should the son of a king look so dejected morning after morning?”So Amnon told him, “I am in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.”
2 Samuel 13:4

5 “Well,” Jonadab said, “I’ll tell you what to do. Go back to bed and pretend you are ill. When your father comes to see you, ask him to let Tamar come and prepare some food for you. Tell him you’ll feel better if she prepares it as you watch and feeds you with her own hands.”
2 Samuel 13:5


  1. They are skillful in deceiving people, they do this in a subtle way that blinds you into thinking they care.
  2. They are shrewd set of people: They are knowledgeable in matters that lead to ruins. Their suggestions are apt but disastrous. Sometimes, one wonders if they dine with the devil himself.
  3. They are observant: they know when their demonic advice creeps into you; your weak days, they look out for and seize it.
  4. They avail themselves at all times; these kinds, make sure they are always handy to penetrate you before you seek a break from their hold. Most times, you call them besties because you think they are helpful.
  5. They are never truthful: they are known for highest order of sarcasm. He knows how to use his tongue to refine the ugly to look pleasant
  6. He takes pleasure advising you against the right, they are glad to spur you into ills and detestable acts.
  7. Jonadabs pretend they want the best for you but he only seeks a score; he is a destroyer.
  8. The devil uses him to fuel your evil desires.

Any friend who helps you do evil in the disguise of “anything for you” is a frenetic Frenemy, a Jonadab and a potential Judas Iscariot.

Be selective when making friends, Jonadab could be anyone.


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